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Is Your Employer Important to Your Happiness?

July 28th, 2010

how-to-manage-your-boss.jpgI come upon the fact that who I work for is extremely important to my happiness every time I smile on getting a sensitive response from them. We may many times underrate the professional sphere in our lives and how it affects us as people, but the truth is far from it. How many times do we come back home from work in a foul mood because our boss screamed at us or denied us a holiday? The reason for our anxiety in life generally also has to do with how we are treated within our professional sphere.

If you were to conduct a search on Google for “a good boss”, you will come across a number of websites that talk about how to be a good boss, and the traits of a good boss. These traits are usually on the lines of being inclusive and keeping everyone involved, coaching and mentoring juniors, listening and communicating well, not playing the blame game, helping employees with deadlines, not being too concerned about money but rather the overall mission, and being understanding.

Yes, a good employer is all this and more. If you can make a friend out of an employer, and share a light conversation that is not about work, your relationship with this person will be on a better and lighter tone then. Another thing that is desirable for an employer to be is sensitive and responsive, or more appropriately, sensitively responsive. Trying to understand the reason for an action before one blows one’s top off is important. It will also help in not blowing the top off in the first place!

Why is it important for us to understand what a good employer is? So we can be good employers to those who work for us, and at the same time, having an awareness of what is lacking in our boss so that we can avoid undue harassment. Bullying, not respecting a person, providing no positive feedback, incompetence, intimidation, and domination are most often the traits of bad bosses.

It is not only about having an understanding boss, but also being an understanding employee. If the boss lacks the friendly touch, we can take the initiative and extend a friendly hand. The bad boss may not even know that he or she is bad. Talking first among colleagues about it and then to the boss may help. However, focusing on what you want from him or her in terms of improved performance should be your focus, and not about how he or she is a bad boss. If nothing helps, going to the Human Resource department and talking to someone there will help, but it will take time to show results.

Stress at work is an everyday affair in many professions. For many of us, working under high-stress conditions becomes almost an addiction. However, there are many others who can’t handle it. If the stress originates from a deadline pressure, and the boss is as wound up as you are, it is a good idea to use some stress buster techniques that can help not only you but also your colleagues and bosses. Cracking up a joke, or focusing on finding a solution rather than dwelling on the problem are equally well equipped to handle stress.

The last word would be to remember to be good bosses ourselves as well.

This article was supplied by Nidhi Varma.

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